I’ve Been a Fool

In my quest to find relief and healing from my life traumas and diagnosed PTSD, I turned to writing.

Writing was suggested to me by several therapists as a process to find freedom. Writing about your trauma with help with the healing process, I was told.

In my enthusiasm and eagerness to find relief and be normal for once, I went all out and gung ho with writing.

I started writing and took writing classes to improve my craft, eventually earning a master’s degree in English. If writing will help me heal, earning a master’s degree will guarantee me complete healing, I thought. I thought wrong.

I believed the more I wrote, the sooner and better I would become healed. I wrote hundreds of pages in my English classes and started a memoir. Now, 400 pages later in my memoir, I think I made a mistake. I haven’t found relief from my symptoms. Going deep into my memory to write details of my experiences and especially my feelings have been counterproductive. I have been retraumatized.

It has been a long, difficult road to travel in writing my memoir. I realize now that completing it will not bring me healing. I do hope that in finishing my work, I will feel a sense of accomplishment, and that will result in a positive effect on my psyche. That motivates me to continue.

I stop typing to wipe my sweaty palm on the upholstered arms of my reclining chair.

I have found redirecting my writing away from my trauma to other subjects beneficial. I have also found developing this website and writing blogs here most productive, and it has made me feel positive. Taking my focus away from my trauma brought me to a better place. Perhaps someday, if this continues, I can experience some kind of happiness.

I was foolish to think the more I wrote, the more and faster I would be healed.

Why wasn’t I told by professionals that writing helps with trauma in most cases but not for all?

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2 responses to “I’ve Been a Fool”

  1. Carol Maura Poshka Scanlon Avatar
    Carol Maura Poshka Scanlon

    Anthony – You made great points here.Tne passion which you exererted trying to heal is inspiring.Those therapists did not customize your care enough.They “Should” on you and then you Shoulded on yourself,based on their advice. They did not set up a spiritual vehicle/modality to have toyou perhaps Have God remove the wounds/ hurt. They put it in you! You became So Strong! The marks of a dysfunctional family are Don’t Talk/TRUST/Feel.Youe writing has expanded you in those areas,and made a consistant continuum.The Light you discovered will help many- Fall on them.Like JeanCocteau said of Artists (applies to wrters too perhaps)
    “Art is a Priesthood” You may find that in an instant..the jail you were put in by sick people no longer has a door.All you have to do is walk a few steps out of that cell… You may also see how you both Loved and Worked-They Don’t have your soul,they may have dropkicked it but.. Game Over …

    1. ajtonyperkins Avatar
      ajtonyperkins

      Thank you, Carol, for this insight. I appreciate the “Art is a Priesthood” reference. I am first and always an artist. I was one 50 years before I began writing. My prior medium of art has been visual art and music.
      My last therapist was part of a Christian therapy office and was a Christian himself. His credentials were impressive, and the highest ranking, in degrees, Ph.D., in the office. I searched long and hard when I settled with him. I thought I chose well. I wanted the best.
      He knew 100 percent of all my writing endeavors. He even read many of my stories, and we discussed them during therapy. He encouraged me to keep writing, and although I wasn’t experiencing any healing, he greatly implied that I would with more writing. He never hinted that writing might not be effective for me in the healing process.
      After several years, I stopped going to him. I realized it wasn’t helping me, and it wasn’t productive.

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